Today I Learn… I make a point of learning something new everyday. This is what I learn each day

1, Sep 21, 2013

Are you secretly an introvert? Fun to check it out

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I read this piece on 8/22, right after we got off from our monthly meeting. 23 Signs You’re Secretly An Introvert The Huffington Post, by Carolyn Gregoire Posted: 08/20/2013. Surprisingly, most of them describe me perfectly, with few exceptions.

1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people.
3. You often feel alone in a crowd. [not me]
4. Networking makes you feel like a phony. [not me]
5. You’ve been called “too intense.”
6. You’re easily distracted. [not me]
7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.
9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
11. You’re in a relationship with an extrovert. [not me]
12. You’d rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
14. You screen all your calls — even from friends. [not me]
15. You notice details that others don’t. [not me]
16. You have a constantly running inner monologue.
17. You have low blood pressure.
18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s.
19. You don’t feel “high” from your surroundings.
20. You look at the big picture.
21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
22. You’re a writer.
23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.

1, Aug 22, 2013

What is on my plate when my daughter is off for college

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We are going to send my daughter to college this coming Saturday, on 8/24/2013. My colleagues kept asking me what I was going to do with all the time after work. Of course, I am not going to answer them directly and tell them I was going to do the following activities. For one thing, I don’t want them to know what I do after work. For another, they don’t understand why.

Here’s the list of things that I have on my plate.
-> Prepare and take CPHIMS exam
-> Research and prepare for my next paper
-> Devote 30 minutes after dinner to planting
-> Learn to make bike with wire, fun thing for me, will wait till I earn it
-> Clean some of the rooms, whenever I need a break
-> Read about investment,
-> Work on my yard on weekend, when the weather permits on weekend
-> Of course, never stop checking with my children, especially my daughter.

1, Aug 21, 2013

“The fact I am not in the office matters most”

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Last week I was chatting with a friend of mine about job and children going to college, etc. How I wish I could transfer my job to wherever my children are. Or I could follow them wherever they go.

My friend mentioned retirement. To be honest, I am not horribly fond of going to the office everyday. Instead, I would rather go somewhere else whenever I want.

Also last Friday, when I asked an NP at our clinic, “What’s your plan for the weekend?” She said, “No plan. The fact I am not in the office matters most. That means I can do whatever I want.” That echoes my thought.

Last weekend, I happened to read something about retirement. Here’s an excerpt of the article.

“It’s not just a love of working that has kept Prosen toiling away 30 hours a week as an octogenarian. He also sees keeping busy as a matter of life or death.

Prosen said he is certain that if he stopped working entirely, he would literally die not long after.

He could be on to something. A number of studies show that retirement is, in fact, bad for your health.”

I am sure this is the case with those who don’t have their personal agenda or goals to go after during their employment years. For me, my plate is always full and I can always find something to keep me super busy.

1, Aug 1, 2013

The first day of August, with only 5 months left for the year

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I can’t believe it is already August. 7/12 of the year has gone.
I asked my mother yesterday over Skype if she still got something special for August First, the day celebrating the establishment of Chinese PLA. She said no. She had been out of the army for so long, over half of a century. It should be the turn of the newly retired army officers and solders. Nice thinking.

I set the goal of having two publications at a professional journal this year. I think I am pretty close to the goal now, with one already published in June, another having been accepted by and most likely coming out from the same journal.

Authors don’t get paid for their publications, but the greatly coveted honor and distinction associated with a publication at a professional journal is not something you can buy with money. That’s why both of my children say they are very proud of me.

1, Jul 21, 2013

Addiction hard to get rid of. Addiction kills..

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The death of Cory Monteith on 7/13/2013 of heroin and alcohol overdose at age 31 reminds me of another young actor, River Phoenix, who died at age 23, also of heroin and cocaine overdose, and another singer Whitney Houston who died at age 48 and also of cocaine use, and actually many more of them.

While it is sad to see these talented and well-liked people passed away so young, it is also amazing how they could keep a clean public appearance while being hopeless addicts privately.

It was said the Monteith had struggled with addictions since his teens. Obviously addiction eventually conquered him. What a nightmare!

1, Jul 18, 2013

That’s why we have stories about Heaven

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Thats why we need stories about Heaven

One week ago, I posted one commemorating my father. After that, I shared it with a friend of mine who wrote back the above.

That’s why we have stories to comfort us. Reality is all socially structured, true as long as we believe it. Happy is he who truly believes.

1, May 7, 2013

Here are top 10 things that an adult has to deal with

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Ok, I read this article, “10 Crap Things About Adulthood” by Lizzy Shramko, on 4/18/2013. Here is the list.

10. Taxes.
9. Health Insurance. High deductible. Low deductible…
8. Your body.
7. Meetings.
6. Coffee addictions.
5. Business Casual.
4. The more money you make, the more money you spend.
3. Dreams are dead. You would think that more experience leads to higher aspirations and lofty goals. Not true. People have been beaten down with pragmatism and a shitty economy, when you couple that with having to pay your bills and health insurance copays, this one kind of makes sense. You no longer have time to dream about all the cool shit you want to do. You’re not going to Paris. Your shitty app company is never going to launch. This is probably the last year you will be jamming with the guys. So forget about your dreams.

2. Being a woman. You thought being a girl as a teenager was shitty and confusing, well buckle up and get ready for a never-ending crap ride of sexual harassment and double standards.

1. Racism. Police officers don’t stop racial profiling. Neither do TSA agents or people who work in department stores. In fact, it gets worse. As with the aforementioned dudes it’s as though white people grow more and more indignant and refuse to acknowledge their privilege. If you bring up anything about race they will crouch down in a defensive position and attack. You might even be accused of reverse racism. Actually you will most definitely be accused of reverse racism.

1, Apr 10, 2013

The effect of inertia, why we become what we are

Filed under: Human nature,Life — admin @ 12:32 am

On 3/30, I read something about why people stay at their job even though they don’t like it. A survey within a company indicates:
72% of people would rather work for themselves.
86% plan to actively look for a new job this year.
70% of employees in the company they work for and aren’t seeking it either.
58% of workers think they don’t need help in their careers and can figure it out for themselves.

The numbers tell us that out of 86% people who plan to look for a new job, only 2% are actively seeking job or looking for changes.

Some people say they are chained by the “Golden Handcuffs,” that is, the good pay and benefits. I would say they are very much the product of their own inertia, which is the only force that chains people to one place, one location, and one lifestyle.

Life is a lot richer than what we can possibly experience. Don’t let your inertia restrict you and limit you from developing your full potential.

1, Apr 1, 2013

April Fool’s Day, how we often fool ourselves in real life

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Not long ago, while I was working on a writing on student loan crisis, I bumped into this article –“Calculating a College Degree’s True Value.”

The article lists the salaries after graduation for 25 majors from the highest paid job (system engineering) to the lowest one (biology).

While I understand that not everybody is interested or is capable of taking the highest-paid major, it strikes me as pure dumbness or self-deceiving when some people take a heavy student loan and go for a major that doesn’t pay at all or that doesn’t even promise a job upon graduation.

It is one thing if your family can pay it all for your low-paid major. It is another thing when you get that major by taking out heavy student loan.

On this April Fool’s day, let us wish people stop fooling themselves when they go to college.

1, Mar 6, 2013

The end of last month and the end of one doctor at our site

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Last day of February saw the leaving of one of our doctors at our clinic. I learn that he was one of the founding physicians for our practice, like over 20 years of seniority here. His experience seems a familiar story.

He came from Seattle area, that is, he grew up there and his family is still there. He went to medical school in Kansas, stayed here for residency, then worked here till the end of last month.

Even though he has been in Kansas for over two or even three decades and has raised his own family here, when both of his children have gone to college, leaving him an empty nest, he still wants to move back to Seattle, being closer to his first home.

When I learn about his story, I think of many people who left home when they were young adults, venturing out for their more opportunities. As they became old, they returned to the place of their origin. Isn’t it something universal?

1, Feb 28, 2013

Trash picker, catalogs, and dreams

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1st prize contemporary issues by Micah Albert

It seems so incongruent when we mention dream together with a picture like this. People often associate dreams with something unrealistically beautiful and ideal. This picture is anything but that.

I don’t know who she is or what specifically her life looks like or what is going on in her mind when she is reading the catalog among trashes or what dream she might have. I do know that people live a different life. And I am sure that’s not the kind of life most people want to lead.

This picture reminds me of those humanities who live in a totally different environment from me, that we should count our blessings for having been delivered from this environment, that, whenever we can, it is our responsibility to alleviate our fellow human beings from miseries and hardships that have been inflicted on them.

P.S. I talked to my daughter about this picture and my thought on it. She said dream could make things happen, if not this generation, life would be better for the next. Without dream and effort, things would remain the same for generations.

1, Feb 18, 2013

Saturday encounter at Central Library

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Last Saturday, I went to our Central library in the morning, to get some help for filing tax return. There I met a Chinese couple in their 60s. They were there for the same purpose.

This was the first time that they came to library for tax help. Since their English is not adequate, I helped them with some of the forms.

The man came from Taiwan to the United States in 1979, having worked all the time on Chinese restaurant and his wife, the second one to be sure, was on the same line. They have been here for so many years and worked hard all these years, yet they don’t seem to be affluent in their lives. And they really carried the appearance of a life of hardship.

As I went through their tax forms, I felt sad and was wondering how they could live on this little. While we need to work hard in our lives, we really need another form of hard work, definitely not this restaurant one. Of course, after I got back, I shared this story with my daughter.

1, Jan 28, 2013

A friend’s facebook is all about his children

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Last Saturday, while my daughter was in Manhattan, I went out doing some grocery shopping. The weather was so warm inside the car that I felt like some time in June or near summer days, which once again brought to my mind memories that I hold dearly about summer, either driving my children to summer school or myself in a relaxing mood. Oh well, another illusion.

While I was searching for a plant that I just bought, I thought of going to facebook, where, for the first time, I went to a friend of mine just to take a peep at his latest career development.

To my surprise, his facebook site consists nearly all pictures of his sons, mainly the elder one who seems to be the source of great pride to his father. In fact, I did not see anything about his career.

I thought of the facebook sites of some of my colleagues here, which display the pictures of their children. Maybe this is what facebook is supposed to be. Or maybe at our age we don’t have anything to display other than the pictures of our beautiful daughters and handsome sons. Or maybe…

I don’t know why. I just think it interesting.

1, Jan 22, 2013

27 Life skills that parents should teach their children, part VI

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(23) Philanthropy. Teach the child the importance of engaging in philanthropy work and develop in her the habit of giving as a social activity. Set an example for the child by volunteering time into charity work

(24) Focus on the present. While the past is gone and the future is not here yet, present is all we have right now. Only by focusing on the present can we not only fully enjoy life but also have a better chance of a future in which we are less tortured by regrets for having wasted time.

(25) Enjoy life. While we work hard to prepare for the future, don’t forget to enjoy what life has to offer now.

(26) Seek a goal in life. Have a goal and work toward it, be it in career or in health or in family.

(27) Learn how to develop and maintain an intimate relationship. Learn to resolve conflicts by open communications, understanding, and compromising.
THE END

1, Jan 21, 2013

27 Life skills that parents should teach their children, part V

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(16) Savings.
(a) Teach the child to live within his means instead of living on borrowed money;
(b) put aside a little of the income into a saving account;
(c) plan well for any big purchase, e.g. if a child wants to buy an expensive item, teach him to set a saving goal, say $10 per week, and wait till he has saved enough for the purchase.

(17) Learn to budget.
(18) Expense. Teach your child how to pay bill.
(19) Investment.

(20) Thrify.
(a) Before making a purchase, always compare at least two stores the quality and price of the goods;
(b) Avoid waste of any forms;
(c) Avoid impulsive shopping;
(d) Eat home cooked meals whenever possible
(e) Avoid shopping sprees, especially during holiday season

(21) Debts. Teach your child the responsibility of a loan, how to avoid getting into unnecessary debts or getting deeply in debts. Learn how to use credit card.

1, Jan 20, 2013

27 Life skills that parents should teach their children, part IV

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(9) A kind heart which is filled with good wishes for others, with which you are ready to extend your helping hand to the needed.

(10) Listening and understand what others are saying and how others feel.

(11) Communication. Good oral and written communication skills are very essential to a child’s success. Schools are not designed to help students develop strong communication skills. Hence, you should help your child to develop this skill at home.

(14) Clean and orderliness. The child should learn to keep his room clean and in good order. Carry out a weekly or monthly cleaning.

(15) Organizing. Teach the child to be organized, put things back to where they belong after the child uses it, and establish a proper procedure in completing a task.

1, Jan 19, 2013

27 Life skills that parents should teach their children, part III

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(4) Motivation, the start of everything. Nobody can push you forward all the time. Your self-motivation is the ultimate push and energe to your goal.

(5) Efficiency. Learn to manage your time. If it must be done, do it without procrastination. Don’t always wait till last moment.

(6) Passion. Find out what you are interested in and good at, and want to spend as much time on it as you are allowed. Go for your passion at full speed.

(7) Cooperation. Learn to work with others and aim at a win-win result. Make friends in competition.

(8) Empathy. Learn to see situation from other’s perspective, to put yourself in other’s position so that you will be able to gain a better understanding of others.

1, Jan 18, 2013

27 Life skills that parents should teach their children, part II

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I might not go into great detail on each of them, as I myself have not learned all of them yet. To be sure, it is hard for the children to learn them all, especially if the parents cannot claim to have done them all.

(1) Critical thinking ability. This is not something you learn at school, which confirmity is the norm and you are not encourage to challenge authority. Both teachers and employers like obedient students and employees. But if you don’t want your child to become someone who only know how to follow the rules and obey authority, you need to teach the child this crucial skill — critical
thinking.

(2) Read to develop the ability to make associations, to determine the reliability of the information presented by the author, or decide if the conclusion is logic and truthful, and finally engage in dialogue or debate with the author.

(3) Stay positive. Especially in time of setbacks or hardship or facing obstacles, instead of complaining, actively seeking solutions, maintain self-confidence and do everything to keep at bay negative thoughts.

1, Jan 17, 2013

27 Life skills that parents should teach their children, part I

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4 summary
A friend of mine sent me the above on 1/4/2013. I am sure I have read something similar to that effect, but good things always worth repeated attention.

Here’s the list in English:
(1) critical thinking ability
(2) reading comprehension
(3) positive
(4) motivation
(5) efficiency
(6) enthusiasm
(7) cooperation
(8) empathy
(9) loving
(10) listening
(11) conversation
(12) car
(13) housework
(14) clean
(15) organizing
(16) saving
(17) budget
(18) debit
(19) investment
(20) thrifty
(21) debt or loan
(22) retirement
(23) philanthropy
(24) seek the moment
(25) enjoy life
(26) have a goal
(27) develop intimate relationship

1, Dec 28, 2012

The year 2012 is becoming old as we welcome the new year

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rush-rush by Zhu ziqing

I still remember a friend of mine sent me this short essay by Zhu Ziqing at the beginning of this year. I thought this one was a bit depressing as I was embracing the new year and ready for new challenge ahead. But before long this new year is on the way out, as another new year is coming in.

With the end-of-holiday blues, no matter how buoyant I have tried to be, I cannot totally shield my mind from the depressing tone that Zhu Ziqing expresses in his essay.

Let us remember the message in Zhu’s essay and value every moment in the coming year. That is, make something happen before this new year becomes old one.

1, Dec 18, 2012

Three questions one needs to think hard in life

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During last weekend, during my early morning walk, I was listening to a Modern Scholar book, Ethics: A history of Moral Thought by Peter Kreeft. To be sure, this is not the first time that I listen to his book. It is simply worth re-listening.

At some point, the author mentions three questions that all of us need to treat seriously in life.

(1) What do you believe? This impacts everything you do — your motivation, your treatment of others, your attitude toward your work and people around you. Basically, this is true.

(2) What life partner do you choose? This is important not only because your partner can bring either happiness or misery to your life, but also because, like it or not, we are all, to certain extent, influenced by the partner we choose to live with, just as your company can change you. Alas, this is also very much true.

(3) What job? This is an easy one as we have to throw one-third of our life into a job. It is as important to our mental and emotional health as the life partner that we choose.

Now, are you convinced?

1, Nov 4, 2012

When the going gets tough and when we cannot handle it alone…

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On 10/25, when a colleague of mine from another office came over to do some work at our office, we talked about the time when she had her chemotherapy and radiation treatment for her breast cancer.

She was divorced at that time. So she was all alone facing work, treatment, heavy medical bills, and all other life’s challenges. She was thoroughly beaten by the chemo, so much so that she could hardly take care of herself. She had not filed her tax return for two years because she couldn’t do it.

She is the kind of woman who has been doing everything all by herself and was fiercely independent. The thought of asking for help had never cropped up in her head, even though she has two grown-up children and even though she needed help desperately.

I told her when she couldn’t handle it, she needed to surrender herself to others, her adult children. She knew she should but she was just not used to asking others.

I think it good to everybody if we move to the passenger seat when the driving becomes too difficult for us. After reading this, my daughter said she should be flexible. “Don’t worry, mom, I will be there for you.”

1, Oct 28, 2012

The effort to keep spirits up with the change of the season

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I cannot say I have not noticed that the days get shorter and the nights longer and the year is coming to the end. I noticed it when fall semester started, when I had to take a flash light during my morning walk, when I had to put on an extra layer of clothes.

The change of the season always reminds me of a poem on carousel, with words like round and round, ups and downs. When I was in college, long long ago, I understood that the poem refers to the change of the season, the year goes round and round with spring after winter, summer following spring, next being fall, the winter once again.

But for some reason, the poem always gives me a sad feeling. Perhaps I had sensed that seasons come and go, then back again, but not human life, not the youthful years when we were healthy and strong. Once the springtime of a human life is gone, it will never come back like natural season and we eventually advance to the winter phase of our lives which only leads to the end of all. Perhaps this association has made me sad.

This year I kept telling myself I should feel good if I can make each day a productive one, if I have not wasted each of the days in my life. That’s how I ward off the sad feelings associated with seasons.

1, Oct 24, 2012

Enjoy your life, keep it simple, get over the cliff…

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This is from a friend of mine, 10/10/2012. Love it. I know you would say “It’s easy to say, but difficult to act upon.” True, it all depends on your personality. No matter what happens to you, don’t get to the point when you want to jump from that height like this girl. Get it over.

1, Sep 29, 2012

Listening to Public Radio in Waco, Texas in 1984

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I liked listening to NPR National Public Radio and that was in 1984 when I first came to the States. At that time my English, especially listening ability, was far from being adequate. I would ask people to repeat at least once before I got it.

At first I got a small black and white TV, not a new one, trying to expose myself to more English. Later, since I spent so much time away from my apartment, either in school or in library, I spent $20 getting a Radio Shack radio. A very solid one. I still have it now. I would plug in for news and other programs of NPR whenever I got a chance. I wasn’t able to follow the news at first but I did get better as years went by.

Of course, I also listened to music and songs like “Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go” and a better one “We Are the World” and country music “I Was Country When Country Wasn’t Cool.” I can still sing some of the songs that I learned back then.

To this date, public radio still keeps my company when I walk in the morning or when I am cooking at home. Thanks, public radio, a great service!

1, Sep 12, 2012

Work is an honor, laziness is the real shame

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When I was at DMR back in 1998 and ’99, I worked with a lady whom, for some reason, I cannot forget. She tried to play the role of manager, even though she was not. She used to work for KCPL. I remember she was panting heavily when we walked fast.

At that time we lived at Corinth apartment. Once, on the way to a Sprint building on Ward Parkway, while chatting randomly, I mentioned that I washed my undergarments by hand. I forgot what brought up this topic but I do remember vividly the shock on her face.

“You wash your clothes by hand!?” she exclaimed. “Yes, we live in an apartment and use public laundry facility. You never know who used it prior to you and what they put in that washer.” I explained.

“Oh my! We never wash anything by hand. We have laundry washer, dish washer, and all kinds of this stuff.” she said proudly, though not without contempt. Indeed, her hands were well-preserved, like those of a baby’s.

I didn’t know what to say at that time and I even forgot how I felt then. Now, when I mention this to my daughter, I want her to understand that there is nothing to be ashamed of. Work is an honor. Laziness is the real shame.

1, Aug 29, 2012

We settle wherever our career leads us

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The other day we went to friend’s house. While chatting about the colleges that the children would attend next year, my friend expressed the wish that her child would come back home after college.

I was a bit surprised to hear that. I understand that it is only natural that the parents want the children to live close by so that they can often see the children, which means a lot to senior parents.

Yet, when we ourselves traveled thousands of miles away from home, crossing the Pacific ocean and leaving behind our parents and everything we grew up with, in order to build a better life, how can we expect the next generation not to do the same?

To be sure, I miss my son greatly. Still I encourage my children to venture out, seeking their own fortune, establishing themselves before anything else.

1, Aug 24, 2012

Life’s advice from an old classmate

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This is a rough translation.
Life gives each of us equal proportion of everything. Don’t fight for more than your share.
There is a limit to how much happiness you are to enjoy. Don’t push your limit.
Don’t covet beauty that belongs to others.
Don’t become weary of your spouse.
Children are here to demand payment. Don’t refuse them.
Don’t seize power as there is no permanent absolute one.
Don’t try to shun responsibility.
Don’t attempt to hoodwink your boss as they can often outsmart you.
Don’t try to hoax the rank and file as they know right from wrong.
Count your blessings as there is no limit to one’s desires.
Take care of your own body.
Do your share of work and let others take care of their shares.
Don’t feel intimidated by temporary difficulties.
Don’t hoard money when you should consume it.
Enjoy your vacation instead of exhausting yourself.
Enjoy the colorful life instead of feeling bored.
Maintain your integrity instead of compromising it.
Appreciate the feeling that is pure and true.
Don’t forget to keep in touch with your best friends forever.

1, Aug 16, 2012

A 22-year-old was determined to lead a life of celibacy

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This happened in China when I was meeting two of my former colleagues at China Daily. I cannot forget this because I was thinking of telling her but didn’t have the chance. Here it is, hoping she will read it.

She told me that her 22-year-old daughter was determined to remain single. That’s right, not marry at all. She said her husband felt like the sky was going to collapse and the two had a huge fight over this.

I would tell this to the young woman. Don’t make any resolution on this. Don’t artificially impose any unnecessary restriction on yourself. Let nature take care of its course.

If you find yourself being attracted by someone, let yourself go. Life is too short to deprive yourself of the joy that is naturally bestowed on you.

1, Jul 24, 2012

How not to have these regrets

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I read this article a few weeks ago –“Top five regrets of the dying” written by Bronnie Ware, a hospice nurse. She listed the most common regrets of the dying patients. The article was posted on her Inspiration an Chai website. The top five regrets are:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
In other words, most people don’t have the courage to live a life true to him/herself. That is a rather sad case as you think of the fact that we got only one life to live.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
That is to say, people have worked too hard and have let life go by without enjoying it.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Does it mean most people have concealed instead of expressing their feelings?

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
By the end of the day, friends make it to the list.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Think of this, most people don’t think they have had a happy life.

The author ends with these words “Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.”

The list of regrets reveals things that people care most by the end of their lives and things that truly makes people happy. It is not surprising that people, having too much of “eat, drink, smoke, or even sex,” care more about something spiritual and emotional, that is, their unfulfilled dreams, lost friends, and being true to themselves.

Now, the question is how not to have these regrets.

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