Today I Learn… I make a point of learning something new everyday. This is what I learn each day

1, Mar 9, 2018

Morality is a shared experience

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Morality is a shared experience. I learned of this before but didn’t give it much thought. I used to think that morality existed everywhere, alone or in a group. This is true, but we behave morally only after we have internalized the socially defined moral rules.

This shared experience came back to me when I prepared for my trip home, when I came back and recalled how I felt at home, when I said nice things to people and see their happy reactions, or when I tried to have kind thoughts toward those whom by default I tend to think negatively. I realize I have intentionally tried to make others happy. Because I feel happy when I make others happy. I feel miserable if I do the opposite.

We have to make others happy if we want happiness ourselves. It seems a paradox, though it is not. Because morality is a shared experience of all social beings.

Be very careful and selective when purchasing

Filed under: _Today I learn... — admin @ 11:52 am

While I was in China, my folks there carried out spring cleaning as part of preparations for Spring Festival. Part of the cleaning involved throwing away unwanted stuffs.

Boy, that’s not an easy task. My youngest sister has stuff crowded here and there. One’s space is limited but what you can buy and bring in is unlimited. Once brought indoor, they are hard to be disposed.

Lesson learned: be very careful and selective when purchasing. They will cost you not only money but time to clean and dispose.

For any gain, you have to initiate the effort

Filed under: _Today I learn... — admin @ 11:44 am

Yesterday at Beijing airport, as people started boarding, I checked my boarding pass to see which group I belonged to, group 4, seat 44B, middle.

I felt dreadful at the thought of the long trip sandwiched in between. So I approached a girl working at the desk, asking if it was possible for me to change to an aisle seat because I needed to use restroom frequently. This is true. I normally drink plenty of water on the flight.

She checked and reassigned me to 38C. It turned out to be a bigger favor than I asked. The seats from 38A to 38C were all empty, so that I was able to lie down most of the trip from Beijing to Chicago. No more leg sore, feet swollen, and back pain from long sitting. Good thing I asked.

Lesson learned: for any gain, you have to initiate the effort. Nothing good will come to your way without your asking for it.

1, Sep 5, 2017

Thinking vs watching vs doing

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When you do nothing but thinking, everything is a problem to you.
When you do nothing but watching, you are forever an onlooker.
The solution will start to take shape only when you start doing something.
Remember a problem will not go away by itself.

1, Aug 23, 2017

Action is better than inaction; Be humble is better than swaggering

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I wrote some notes a few weeks ago, left them there and forgot where I picked them. Here are some of them.

1. In most cases, action is better than inaction; decision is better than without.
2. Work with people who complement you, not with people who are like you
3. Be humble, no swaggering. Be yourself.
4. Try to have a good mood everyday. Mood is not your life, but it can definitely influence your life, for better or for worse. Very often you don’t lose to others. You lose to your own mood.

I wrote to two of my former colleagues/friends today. One returned to me immediately with contagious excitement. The other not. We were in the same office for half a year prior to my leaving. This is the second time that I wrote to her without a response. I guess I have lost her. Sad. Flowers blossom and fade on their own. That’s life.

1, Feb 17, 2017

Thought on the practice of foot binding

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It’s easy to see the physical harm and the restriction of mobility inflicted by the foot binding practice in ancient China. What is not easy to perceive is the mental binding and restrictions that we feel every day — the pressure to conform and the fear of taking a path that is different from the majority, the fear of the risk and the unknown, the fear of missing out.

It is easy to say that we are not the slaves of others, that we don’t copy others. What is difficult is to express our own thoughts instead of echoing those of others, to follow our own passion instead of doing things because this is what you are told to do.

It is okay that we do things like the nursery rhyme when we were little, but we have to tell ourselves that we got to graduate from nursery days when we are adults.

This is the way we wash our face,
Wash our face, wash our face.
This is the way we wash our face,
So early in the morning.

This is the way we comb our hair,
Comb our hair, comb our hair.
This is the way we comb our hair,
So early in the morning.

This is the way we brush our teeth
Brush our teeth, brush our teeth.
This is the way we brush our teeth
So early in the morning.

This is the way we put on our clothes,
Put on our clothes Put on our clothes
This Is The Way
This is the way we put on our clothes,
So early in the morning.

1, Nov 4, 2016

Plan for next year… continue good practice

Filed under: _Today I learn... — admin @ 10:52 am

When I started my current job in 2005 in healthcare area, I realized this was a totally new field for me and I had a lot to learn at this place. So I made a point of learning at least one thing a day. I even created a file named “What I learn Today” to record my learning. lol

I plan to quit my job at the end of this year. But I don’t want to get lazy and boring, and quit some of the practice that has benefited me for the past decade. One of them is learning new thing everyday, even if it’s not everyday, at least continuously.

With this plan, I have changed the title of this site to “Today I Learn… I make a point of learning something new everyday. This is what I learn each day”

I hope my readers will learn and grow with me as days go by.

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