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1, Jan 16, 2018

You must have a plan for a semester, a summer, a year…

Filed under: Father,Learning,Life — admin @ 11:00 am

Lately I had a rather difficult exchange with one of my relatives. He goes to a local college here. He went back to China for winter break and came back on New Year’s Day. As soon as he got back, he made it clear that he would go back to China in May for the summer. That means he would spend both winter and summer breaks in China, totally four months out of a year. Two trips and four months in one year! This is crazy. I mean when I went to school back in 1980s, I lived on scholarship. Not much, of course. I made a trip back home once in three years. I just cannot wrap my head around this!

I know they have money now, still it makes no sense. I cannot advice them not to waste money since they seem to have too much on hand. I can only approach them about making good use of time, three whole months in summer.

I wrote to my relative, “What ultimately matters is no matter where he spends his summer, he needs to have a goal, a plan, so that he can get something done, so that he won’t waste his life. It’s OK if he desires the comfort that Beijing home offers to him. It’s OK that he wants to be high with his friends in Beijing, but it’s not OK to waste the whole summer without getting anything done.”

“I remember when I was in elementary school, my father always asked me to make a plan for the summer break, expecting me to complete at least one thing during the summer. I didn’t know better at that time and was rather resentful of writing any plan. When my children were little, I set the same expectation of them. Now both of them have got into the habit of planning and finding a goal for a set period. So much so that even my son’s girl friend is going to write a resolution for this year. I think it a good practice. It helps us not to waste time.”

Since I spent some time on this issue, I found it rather meaningful, helpful. So here’s the record.

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