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1, Jan 24, 2011

Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, a Chinese Mother, Part II

Filed under: Mother — admin @ 12:58 am

Below is a quote from the book, which I wholly agree.

“What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it. To get at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences. This often requires fortitude on the part of the parents because the child will resist; things are always hardest at the beginning, which is where Western parents tend to give up. But if done properly, the Chinese strategy produces a virtuous circle. Tenacious practice, practice, practice, practice is crucial for excellence; rote repetition is underrated in America. Once a child starts to excel at something–whether its math, piano, pitching, or ballet–he or she gets praise, admiration, and satisfaction. This builds confidence and makes the once not-fun activity fun. This in turn makes easier for the parents to get the child to work even more.” p. 29

Talk about raising a happy child, my daughter agrees with the author that nothing makes her happy until she performs well at school or gets prize at competition or feels she is really good at something. She also knows clearly that only through the bitter hard work can one enjoy the sweet fruits of accomplishments.

Don’t we know this — no pain, no gain. As with anything in life, a carefree childhood can potentially mean a poverty-stricken adulthood, poor in body and mind or lifelong dependence on wellfare. Because of this, the country needs millions of tiger mothers who dare to set high standards for their children and enforce reasonable rules for them to follow.
To be continued…

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  1. It is true that parents have crucial influence on the success of their children. However, if we look at the whole society from a historical view, the rise and fall of a nation’s educational level is influenced by it’s political, economic and cultural climate. In China, during the Cultural Revolution in 1960s-1970s, education was devalued. Since 1980s, education is highly valued again because of the fall of Mao’s political ideology, and also because education is the only path to good jobs in the world of competition.

    In America, if you talk to older people of my generation, you will hear stories of how parents and teachers discipline children, and how students worked hard at their academic work while working part-time for extra money. America used to be the soil for the world finest scientists and innovators due to its excellent educational system. But in the recent 40 years, the educational quality in public schools and universities has been watered off. The traditional culture of parental discipline is disappearing.

    The government has the most powerful influence on public schools that guide values, morals, knowledge and critical thinking. The ideology and programs of racial diversity, multiculturalism, gay rights, lesbianism, feminism, African-ism, 3rd world Marxism, as well as sex education without reference to what is moral and good … have reduced public schools’ ability to teach good morals & values, as well as firm math & science foundation to our children. Political correctness have killed American new generation’s critical thinking capabilities. People in positions put their idea in curriculum and practice. They censor views that do not conform diversity/multiculturalism. They challenge traditional values of discipline.

    Besides, the government’s generous welfare programs guarantee that uneducated poor people (even illegal immigrants) will be well fed and taken care of. Instead of emphasizing hard-working and personal responsibilities, the government has cultivated a culture and practice of entitlement and dependency. As the result, the poor uneducated people pass their culture of poverty to their children. That is why we see increasing “lazy, irresponsible and selfish parents” with “irresponsible and careless parenting.”

    Today, America has lost standards in education. It is a sign of education crisis which will lead to the fall of the nation. It is not because of the lack of “responsible parents like Amy Chua that American schools have yielded so many losers and dropouts.” Instead, it is the failure of our political system. Our country needs profound political and cultural changes that will allow “millions of tiger mothers who dare to set high standards for their children and enforce reasonable rules for them to follow.”

    Comment by Xiaoqin — 1, Jan 25, 2011 @ 12:55 am

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