Can’t believe half of the year has gone!

Last weekend I was reading the book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth by Harv Eker, 2005. There is an interesting statement in the book. It is something like this, statistics showed that number one cause of divorce in America was money. Also see part of this article: “Why money is the leading cause of divorce”, http://www.highbeam.com/doc/1G1-18930297.html

This reminds me of an incident happened last weekend in my household. My son will come back for the coming long weekend. Since the other adult let his nephew drive my son’s car to his school, I said we needed to get the car back for my son. The other adult said, “How can we do this after we gave it to him? If our son needs to drive, he can drive my car and I can walk to the office.”

I was not prepared for this answer, because I thought we let the nephew drive my son’s car while my son was not home and we could get the car back any time my son’s home. “I offered him the car when he wanted to buy his own car” was the answer. I know what that means.

See the nature of the transaction seems to have changed from car-lending to car-giving and I have no idea thing would turn out this way. I should have thought of this before the car was given away. Now I cannot have the car back, unless the nephew cannot find a job upon graduation and has to go back to China.

Let it be. I said no more. Not because I am nice and generous but because I am tired of fighting. I simply do not have the energy for even an abrasive exchange of words.

Besides, my son stays home only for the weekend. Perhaps he never stays longer than a weekend. One step further, I have no objection if anyone wants to walk 2 miles to work, if my son does stay stay longer.

I have no doubt that the event would turn out differently if it happened elsewhere. Now you know why money plays such a key role in dividing a family. I write it down only because I sincerely hope my children can be wiser in handling situation like this.

Some reader read this posting as the writer being critical or resentful of others. Not here. Let me reiterate the purpose of this posting is not to be critical of anybody. As with all my writings, this one was written for my children only and with a total peace of mind.