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1, Jul 22, 2009

Jump Out of Your Personal Loss by Reaching Out

Filed under: Friend — admin @ 12:54 am

My friend from North Carolina came to visit us at the moment when she was overcome by grief over the loss of her mother in March this year. I know time is the cure-all in situation like this. Still, I wish she can move on to her life as quickly as she can. Here are some tips to her and also to myself in case I find myself in the same boat.

(1) Go out either to find a job or do volunteer work. By going out you jump out of your solitary confinement or even self-imposed house arrest. Meet new people, experience new life, broaden your horizon. All these will help divert your attention from your sadness.

(2) Have your own life and your own goal and pursuit, instead of latching on your spouse or children. This way you will have less complaint and feel a lot happier when your spouse gets back home in the evening doing something he enjoys. Live and let live.

(3) Find opportunities to do good and to be helpful to others. When you reach out and make difference, you will find your value confirmed and realized. When you are with someone who is in much more miserable situation than you are, you will begin counting your own blessings. Sometimes, get yourself blissfully busy for others is the best medicine for sadness and depression. .

Her visit reminds me of the song Lean on Me

Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there’s always tomorrow
So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you’d understand
We all need somebody to lean on

Lean on me when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
Till I’m gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Lean on me…

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