What do we need least? — Blame. Yes, I cannot keep my rage when someone blame me for having failed in parenting. I have been a parent of two for the past 19 years and have undergone untold hardships. I admit that I am not a perfect parent. Still, I do not need blame. I remember when some people criticized my parenting and I rose up defending myself, I was accused of “never accepting criticism.” That person has never been any help in parenting at all.

To be honest, many parents are already tired, exhausted, frustrated, even depressed in dealing with headstrong children. If, instead of offering constructive advise and help, others keep on piling blames on the failure of her parenting, which only helps to crush her will to do a good job of parenting.

I have committed many mistakes in parenting, regardless of my good intentions and constant efforts. I wish my children are resilient, always bounce back, remain a child in their hearts, becoming independent, responsible adult while remaining the innocent child inside after going through the vicissitues of life, not to be diminished by setbacks, obstocles, frustrations, betrayal, prejudices and discriminations, keeping the curiosity of the child even when they grow up.

I just realize I have so much to say to my childen and they never have time for my long-windedness.